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Do you have Leaky Energy Syndrome? You seriously might, and I want to help.

But first, quick story:

Last week I went for a run with a friend.

Truth be told, I didn’t feel like running. I was tired. Mentally and physically. I had a shoot the day before and I was prepping to teach a big charity class for Bright Pink the next day.

But, I decided to give it my best shot.

The minute we started, I found myself frustrated, trying to keep pace.

My internal dialogue pretty much went like this on repeat, “He’s going so fast. Why can’t he slow down? Why can’t I keep up? Why did I agree to this?”

As we continued, I became more and more tired and less willing to continue.

It took me about half the run to recognize that I was experiencing what I call LEAKY ENERGY SYNDROME.

I’ll explain.

Imagine for a moment, that you get ONE tank full of energy for the week. That’s all.

You are going to use that energy for all the things you want to accomplish this week: writing your latest blog post, getting ready for your hot date or prepping for your audition.

And you want to nail all these things. (Head out of gutter, friend.)

But, throughout the day and week, you slip into thoughts like, “I’m not that great of a writer, why can’t I write more like so and so”, “This guy is is going to look 10 years older than his match.com pic”, or “Why can’t casting step into 2013 and do this stuff online?”

I want you to imagine that each moment you spend on one of these thoughts, your energy tank lowers just a wee bit. This means you have LESS of it to use for all those great things you want to do.

In turn, you have less juice for your writing, less enthusiasm for your date, and less confidence for your audition.

If thoughts like this are constantly crossing your mind, it is likely you too have LEAKY ENERGY SYNDROME.

The problem is that most of us don’t know our energy is leaking.

Remember how I said it took me half the run to notice my own thoughts?

We are so in the habit of worrying, comparing or complaining, that we aren’t aware of how it might be taking away from our own greatness.

Spending mental energy worrying about things you can’t control or wishing you were in a different life position, is draining your energy life force.

I am not saying be happy all the time. (Please don’t buy into the illusion that you are supposed to be.)

I am not saying don’t vent when things are bothering you. (That’s what a glass of wine and good friends are for.)

What I am suggesting is that you start noticing how and when your mental energy is being zapped in ways that do not support what you REALLY want in life.

When your energy starts to LEAK, here are some things you can do:

1. Turn your attention back to what you CAN DO.

2. Focus on what you DO HAVE.

3. REST if you need.

4. Slow DOWN.

5. Make a list of things you are EXCITED about.

6. Tell someone you are GRATEFUL for them.

7. Look in the gosh darn mirror and say, “Hello Sexy, Gorgeous Thing, it’s great to see YOU today! You are one fine specimen.”

Do whatever it takes to stop the leaky energy…

So that you can keep runnin’.

Today, I want you to come on over HERE to the blog and tell me three things:

1. What is the nature of your Leaky Energy Syndrome? Does it come in the form of comparing, worrying or complaining? Is it about the same subject/people each time?

2. When it happens, how does it usually make you feel?

3. What would your day look like if you didn’t have Leaky Energy Syndrome?

Tell me in the comments. I am curious to see if us humans have similar ways in which our energy leaks and I will be answering any questions you might have.

Tighten up those leaks, baby!

Love
Erin

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  1. The source of my Leaky Energy Syndrome is Shiny Object Syndrome. I’m in the process of starting up my own Coaching Business and it is so easy to see something I either want to implement into my practice or a program I want to join to grow my business. It can get crazy overwhelming!

    Shiny object syndrome makes me feel as if I am missing out on knowledge or a great way to make myself and my business better.

    I’ve been doing some self-work around this syndrome to calm down the overwhelm, affirm that I am right where I need to be and trust in my process. I’m working on having everyday flow like this!

  2. In regards to leaking energy. I’m a comparer. As time has gone on and I’ve gotten to know myself better I sometimes can recognize when I’m actively focusing on what someone else has more so than myself. Truth be told this use to happen the most often with my very best friend. She and myself are both immersed in the very competitive world modeling and acting. I would see her at castings and go-sees unaware that out agent (same agent) had sent us both to the audition. I would think to myself “ugh, she looks better. She is prettier, thinner, better clothes, better delivery” and the list goes on. And if she booked the job, then the swirling thoughts of “what’s wrong with me? Why am I not good enough? What does she have that I don’t?” This leaky energy of comparing really made me feel sad and inadequate. It robbed me of my love of self and it also but a snag in our friendship. Under the surface for a period of time I would feel annoyed rather than happy for her and that’s not the type of friend I want to be. As I’ve grown, and as you’ve suggested, focused on myself, my blessings in life, what I do have, or jobs I have gotten its clear that comparing myself alto anyone else is silly. Does it still happen? Absolutely, but I’m when I catchy self I switch gears and list those positives about me and my life. If I stopped comparing myself to others all together… Wow what a concept. Always wanting more or what I don’t have is exhausting. Giving me thanks for what I do have and stopping leaking energy on what I don’t would free upper energy to do and be more for myself, my family, my fiends, anyone I come in contact with. I have to refocus and keep working at catching myself mid-comparing and redirect and retain my energy for a better and happier me!

  3. Allison says:

    1. Worrying
    2. Depleted
    3. I have no idea- maybe energized? I find it to be a cycle of depletion, frustration and then surrender followed by a lot of self-loathing at my laziness.

  4. Steph says:

    My biggest energy leak comes from the compulsion to please other people, rather than doing to please myself.

    It makes me feel anxious, tense, frustrated.

    If I didn’t have LES, I would feel calm, confident, authentic, and I would consistently alternate between kicking MAJOR ASS and taking exquisite care of myself.

  5. Liz says:

    I love this phrase…Leaky Energy..crappy attitude…negative mind chatter..oh yes! My biggest leak is tied to my body and how I will be judged if I don’t lose x amount of weight. Awareness is key and I tell my attitude to take a hike on a daily basis!

  6. sherry says:

    1. Sometimes it’s the comparing or the worrying but most often it’s complaining. It’s not always the same thing but it’s always the same downward spiral of bitching and moaning and it gets worse and worse until I finally go to bed and shake it off in my sleep.

    2. I always feel like absolute crap. It drains me and it’s like some part of me is watching it happen and wondering why I can’t shut the hell up and perk back up again. I hate when it happens. I end up feeling frustrated, exhausted, and sad.

    3. I’d have more energy to focus on the things that matter instead of complaining about stuff.

    Mind you this isn’t a daily occurrence, it happens periodically (and perhaps this is stereotyping but it does happen mostly around a certain time of the month!), but I wish it would be even less frequent.

  7. Nina Vucetic says:

    Major leakage this week (and definitely a pattern now that needs serious bottom lines and physically restrauning my behavior.
    Found myself drifting off for hours and hours on other people’s site. Of course there was the “better than”, “less than”… (all the same sh&t – EGO). Finished 14 hours later. Exhausted. Zero output.
    I want to say that it was the LAST time I did it and that I saw the light, or rock bottom or something. But that would be a total lie.
    This was my little secret before btw. But no more – rather save my ass and get work done than try to save face.
    Have to be so vigilant – that is total danger zone for me, because when it came time to write my guest post: 200 words in, exhausted. Gotta sleep.

    Thanks Erin for bringing this up

    Nina

  8. Andy Bland says:

    I needed to read this today. Thank you. You’re right. Too much time spent on worrying is a waste of time.

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